How to kill your addiction in 21 days!

I personally know what it’s like to be addicted to something bad. When you are addicted to something good, like exercising or eating healthy, then your life improves. But when that addiction is to something bad, like porn, alcohol, or lying, then your life becomes miserable. Those bad addictions do nothing to improve your life.

However, with any addiction it is possible to be free FOREVER of those things that make your life more difficult. Someone who is addicted to alcohol cannot live. Their lives revolve around the bottle. The same with porn (for both men and women): you will plan your day according to your addictions. The same goes for soda consumption – you’ll find yourself broke because you love that Dr. Pepper more than you should!

Before ending your addiction, you need to understand the following:

• You have a problem, and it doesn’t matter why you have it (so blame is no excuse!)
• Giving in to your cravings is YOUR choice, you are not obligated to do so.
• You have the power to say “Yes” or “No” to your addictions.
• Your problem is only temporary, if you let it.

It takes about 21 days for any person to create or break a habit. In this case, we want to break a habit (or a bad addiction). And I’m sorry to say, but the best way to kick a bad habit is to quit cold turkey, temporarily, that is.

For 21 days, you will make the decision to simply not give in to your cravings. Whether it’s smoking (cigarettes or weed), sleeping with strangers every night, getting drunk, gambling, eating sweets, or whatever else takes over your life, you simply have to stop doing it for 21 days.

Now, what about trying to “wean yourself” off your bad habits? Well, let me give you an example that MEN would probably understand:

Allen is a married man with children. He has a problem with porn. And he likes ALL kinds of porn: hardcore porn, softcore porn, 18+ porn, lesbian porn, you name it. He gets his mouth watering at all of them.

One day, Allen gets tired of always giving in to his addictions. He is ruining his wishes for his wife. He can’t stop thinking about looking at naked women! Her desires for him are out of control! Therefore, he figures that he would tone it down. I mean, he can’t just stop cold turkey. That’s impossible!

So instead of looking at the harsher stuff on the internet, he decides to look at the store catalogs his wife receives on occasion. He will only look at the section with the women in their underwear. It is not a big thing. It’s not porn. Many of these women are probably moms… hot moms… very hot moms.

Hmmm, wondering if these hot moms have husbands who know what they’re doing. What if their husbands didn’t know?

Hmmm, what if there was a cheating wife porn site…

And before you know it, she’s back on the computer looking for new cheating wife porn sites.

Switching to the “lighter versions” of the hardcore versions won’t work, because you’re still feeding your addictions. No, maybe you don’t drink five times a day, but you’re still giving in to your addictions. Maybe you’re just drinking “diet cokes” instead of the sugary ones, but eventually, you’ll miss the “real stuff” and go back to it.

If you are addicted to something, that means you have a weakness for it. The best way to handle any weakness is to get rid of what you are weak in.

So, back to our friend Allen. He needs to leave the porn period. He is a married man and he does not need to covet other women. So this is what he will do for 21 days:

• Stop looking at porn, period. Taking a look at something naughty, even if it’s not “porn”, would still feed your addictions.
• He reverses his gaze when he sees other attractive women.
• Keep her eyes on another woman’s eyes if she is tempted to look at her breasts.
• Don’t watch anything on TV that makes women skimp on tight clothing.

And for 21 days, here’s what you WILL:

• He looks at his wife more often when she’s naked.
• Have sex with your wife more often.
• He takes his wife by the hand
• thinks bad things about his wife
• Hitting his wife’s butt or touching her more often
• Look at your wife’s treats more often.

The key here is to stop your bad habits IN THE COLD while forming a new habit in its place. By doing this, he:

• He begins to desire his own wife
• He has little or no interest in other women.
• Get a closer relationship with your wife.
• get rid of your addiction
• start living life again

Now, I use the example of porn because it is such a hot topic! But this principle applies to EVERYTHING. The point is to stop everything you are doing that is leading to your addictions and start doing the things that will STARVE your addictions. When something starts, it dies. If a woman is addicted to romance novels and it prevents her from desiring her own husband, she needs to stop eating her addiction and start doing more things to desire her own man.

If someone is addicted to alcohol, that person needs to break that addiction and start replacing alcoholic beverages with beverages that do something good for the body, like, I don’t know, WATER!

If someone is addicted to a particular food, then that person needs to stop eating that addiction and start craving healthier foods.

It’s about starving your addiction and being aggressive about it. Addictions are not removed. Addictions are over! You don’t want to take it easy. You want to hunt it down and kill it!

Listen! If you don’t know anything about weeds, understand that if you don’t uproot them, they will grow back! As long as the roots of any plant are intact, you will see them again. Those roots are still active, waiting for the perfect season to sprout again overnight! You control weeds by driving them to the roots so they don’t grow back there. You control your addiction by taking it to the root and killing it.

And you kill your addiction by stopping it in its tracks. But only temporarily.

Now why am I saying stop doing it for 21 days? Well, even though you need to kick your PERIOD addictions, that “forever” thought might be overwhelming and you’ll fall back into your old ways. But, if he could just stop it for a brief moment, it gives him hope that maybe he can get back to his addictions again. However, by the time the 21 days are up, she won’t want to go back to her old ways. And anyone could stop doing anything for a brief moment.

When I tell you to stop for just 21 days, that gives you a goal to work towards and a plan to work with. During those 21 days, you’ll do everything you can to stay away from your addictions so that when the 21 days are up, you’ll feel so liberated from your addictions that you won’t want to go back. Having a life free of addictions is better than a life where you are chained. You don’t want to live life in chains now, do you?

But you might be thinking, “That’s easier said than done, man! You don’t know what I’m going through!”

Yes! All addictions work the same way: you have a strong desire and you give up. Period. And what makes it an addiction is that you ALWAYS give in to these cravings, even to the point where you make adjustments to your schedule just to give in to these cravings. But what I’m telling you is that if you take the attitude of “easier said than done,” guess what? You will NEVER lose your addiction. But if your attitude is that your addiction needs to “Go Away”, then you WILL CONQUER your addiction. I don’t care what you’re addicted to, all addictions work the same way. And you could kill those addictions the same way: HUNGER.

No more nicotine patches? Don’t smoke “lighter cigarettes” or drink less of the “hard stuff.” HUNGRY her addiction. Attack! Be aggressive! Act like you’re fighting for your life. Because by simply weaning yourself off, you provide temporary relief, but the roots are still there. You pull a weed off the stem without pulling out the roots, then you just don’t see the weed anymore. But while the roots are still in the ground, it will come back, and it might as well bring some friends!

Go after those addictions with a vengeance! You don’t treat addictions like they’re nothing. They are ruining their lives! Be aggressive with your addictions and you’ll get some aggressive results!

Aiyo A. Jones, MS

NCSF Certified Fitness Trainer