I want to make my estranged husband miss me so much that he comes home

Of all the strategies I get asked about by wives trying to lure their husbands back home, making him miss you so much he can’t wait to come back is the most common. Wives are often unsure how to accomplish this without coming across as too desperate or obvious. I heard from a wife who said, “My husband left about three weeks ago. He said he just wasn’t happy and he needed time to assess how he wants to proceed with our marriage. Needless to say, she was heartbroken but no.” No matter what I did or said, she indicated that she was leaving anyway and there was no way to change her mind. We talk with some regularity. He communicates with me, but doesn’t give me any clues as to what it is. thinking. And he never mentions coming home. Frankly, this is the most important thing for me. I want him home, where he belongs. I also try to insinuate to see if he says he misses me and wants to come home, but he never does. How do I make him miss me more than he does? How do I make him miss me enough to want to come home?

I had a definite and very strong opinion on this because I was in exactly this situation and I felt very strongly that if I could make my estranged husband miss and miss me enough, he would finally come home. But I found through my own experience that the more I tried, the more he resisted. I eventually got him to weird me out a bit, but it wasn’t until I almost gave up on my obvious plan that things changed. In my experience, actively trying to make him miss you will often do just the opposite. But taking a very unconventional approach often works much better. I will explain below.

Often, if it’s obvious you’re trying to make him miss you, he’ll be less likely to: Many wives will go to great lengths to appear attractive to their husbands. Some will even try to make him jealous or hint that other men are trying to chase them. Still other wives will try to provoke the guilt or make all kinds of promises about the positive things he can expect if he comes home. The common denominator among all these potentially failed plans is that the husband is very likely to know that he is being manipulated. As such, he will be tempted to doubt the validity of what you are trying to present to him. And these doubts may well keep him from missing you so much because he is confused as to what is real and what is not.

I know this can be very frustrating. And it can make you wonder if you’re not supposed to actively try to make him miss you, then where does that leave you? I’m going to cover that topic now.

The Best Alternative. How to make him miss you without making your plan obvious: If you lean on him to see what he’s missing or constantly ask him how he feels about you, then you’re only ensuring his resistance. These questions make him uncomfortable, so he may think it’s in his best interest to avoid it. And, while he may know that he shouldn’t try so hard, he often won’t be sure what he should do as an alliterative. Well, in my experience, once you stop trying so hard, you’ll actually gain some ground. Oddly enough, once you start living your life without the sense of despair or panic that comes with making it your only goal to get him home, he’ll often notice and eventually miss you more than he would have if you will miss your only focus.

I understand that this might not be what you want to hear. But I’d rather tell you something that really helps you get back home than something that sounds good but is essentially ineffective. I literally almost gave up on my husband once he suddenly started to notice. And frankly, he started noticing (and missing me) because I suddenly backed off. She couldn’t help but notice that suddenly he wasn’t constantly calling or asking about his feelings or wondering out loud how much he missed me. I will admit very openly that this was not my intention at first. It was not a conscious or calculating plan. I got so tired of not getting the results I wanted that I took a break. And this is what made the difference. Once I took that break, the silence made him question what he was doing. And that’s when he started to miss me. If I had known the end result would have been so easy, I wouldn’t have wasted as much time as I did.

So, to answer the question posed, in my experience, the best way to make him miss you and want to come home is to not try so hard and so obviously to do so. Instead, live yourself. Be open to your husband. Stay positive and friendly. But don’t make it your sole purpose in life to make him miss you or make him come home. Instead, make it clear to him that while you’ll be there when he makes a decision, you no longer plan to put things on hold while you wait. I know this may seem counterintuitive, but the success rate of this plan is much higher than the more obvious plans.