My husband is in love with another woman but wants to stay with me

The other day I received an email from a wife who said, “My husband is in love with someone else. He is very honest about the fact that he loves her, but says that his commitment is to me and our family. He is “She’s going to meet me, but I feel like she’s only with me because she has to. I suspect that if she could get away with it, she’d be with her. How can I have a marriage knowing that I’m runner-up?” next article.

If your husband is in love with someone else, he should not have contact with her if he is going to save your marriage: This seems like common sense, but I can’t tell you how many women write to me and explain a situation where the husband gets along with the wife and mistress. This scenario cannot end well. If her husband has the ability to compare him to the woman who isn’t doing her laundry or picking up her trash or carrying the baggage of history between you, then he may very well lose.

If he’s really committed to you, then his loyalty and attention should be at home. To restore trust and intimacy, you can’t and shouldn’t worry if he’s been with her. He must cut all ties. There are no exceptions to this. I realize he can work well with her, but if this is the case, then very firm boundaries need to be set (and I’d actually rather he transfer or get another job). her in your life You deserve better than this and you should demand it.

If he wants to stay with you, make him earn this right. He is not to see her, talk to her, or interact with her, and he is to provide you with what you need to show you that you can trust that this is the reality of the situation.

Focusing only on the two of you: Once you cut this woman out of your life (and your husband’s), your focus should move to the two of you. Don’t give her more power than she deserves from her and don’t keep coming back to her or her relationship. For this to work, you both need to commit to repairing the marriage. Continuing to think about her goes against this. And frankly, continuing to mention her only makes her husband think of her. You obviously don’t want this. Keep her attention where she belongs: on you and your family.

Now, it’s true that you’re going to have to explore why the affair happened, but instead focus on what went wrong in YOUR relationship and how to fix it instead of what was so special about YOUR relationship. Their relationship should be over, done and eventually forgotten. You can speed this up by focusing on the things that will help re-establish the bond and connection.

I find that many people make the mistake of pushing the situation too hard. This makes both people uncomfortable and uncomfortable. These negative feelings can make you feel like this is just a lost cause. It’s important that both of you are clear on the fact that the compromise is there, so it will be okay to muddle through or fight for a while. You need to know that he is absolutely committed to you and vice versa, so that if hard times come your way, both of you will hang in there, knowing that if you can get through the next few weeks, things will be much easier.

Create a newer and better marriage: Yes, getting over this is hard. But, it is important not to make it heavy. Focus on having fun together every day when you are ready. You must create what is a “new normal”. However, this new state of being should eventually be better than what came before. Visit new places. To have new experiences. Shop, travel and eat in new places that will create new memories. Get out of your comfort zone to create feelings of excitement, exploration, and anticipation.

I know that part of this article has focused on it and its negative aspects. But, I want you to focus on what the good news is. He has made it clear that he is committed to you. Many wives do not have this luxury. I have so many women who write to me and tell me that he is not only in love with another, but that he is leaving and going to be with her. This isn’t her situation, so take advantage of what you have right now: her commitment (and hopefully yours, too).