The 5 commandments to seduce women

Learning how to get physical, climb, and eventually seduce women is one of the lesser-seen aspects of the game. Most guys will memorize every line in the world, know every little routine, read every seduction book known to man, and still not have sex…

Simply put, if you don’t get physical, you’re not going to have sex.

In this article, I have outlined the 5 commandments to seduce women. Understanding and implementing this in your life will make the difference from being the guy who knows a lot about this topic of seduction to being the guy who actually experiences real results.

1. Although it will not be a creep

Most men who try to seduce women come across as gross to the women they meet. They sit at home reading seduction books and when they try to be Don Juan in the real world, they are more like Gollum from The Lord of the Rings.

Below are some examples of what certain men think they are doing to seduce women and how it is Really bumping…

Unflinching Sex Gaze = Fiery Eyes Of Creepy Man
Slow talk and sexy = cheap Barry White impersonation
Fingering behind the back = Oddball trying to cop-a-Feel

It is vital to understand that seduction is the last phase of the game. When you’re out meeting and talking to women, trying to seduce them should be the last thing on your mind. Although you should always be physically climbing and pushing the envelope, the vibe around you should be fun, carefree, and upbeat. Notice how I didn’t say serious or mysterious or any of the other traits that someone would describe as seductive.

With women, the order of your game should be…

1. Attract women by being a confident man to have fun with. He stands out in some positive way from all the other men she has met in the past by being funny, interesting, playful, challenging, etc.
2. Connect emotionally with the woman by letting her get to know you. Earn her trust by sharing personal stories about yourself, learning more about her own life, and finding similarities between the two of you.
3. Seduce.

If you try to do step 3 before steps 1 and 2, you will end up very badly. Always remember that.

2. Although it will grow a pair

At one end of the spectrum, you have the guy who tries to be Mr. Seductive Man and turns out to be a huge pervert doing it. The first commandment was addressed to him. At the other end of the spectrum you have the huge coward who thinks his hand will explode if he touches a woman’s arm. This commandment is addressed to him.

To seduce women, you must be able to step forward and pull the trigger. This means not being afraid to have physical contact with the women you meet. It means not hesitating when it’s time to put your arm around her, hold her hand, hug her and kiss her. It means having confidence in yourself when you do these things. It means being comfortable with sexuality and not being cowardly in showing this comfort to the world.

For many men, this is a difficult thing to do. Many boys grew up in homes where they hardly ever touched their relatives. They never greeted their mom and dad with a giant hug and kiss every time they saw them and it felt even weirder doing this to a sibling. This left them feeling scared and uncomfortable whenever it came to touching another person, especially a woman.

One thing to realize is that women LOVE the feeling of human contact, whether it’s holding her hand, hugging her, or just giving her a high five. Touch is something that connects people that words and thoughts could never do. So be comfortable with touch and don’t be afraid to express it.

3. It will climb though

The guys think they can “hook up” to get to the bedroom, and then BOOM, a sexual volcano erupts out of nowhere. This is not the case in the real world. To seduce women, you need to establish physical chemistry early on, long before the two of you make it to the bedroom.

A girl’s sexual comfort level is like a volume knob, you have to constantly turn that knob up when you’re with her. When the two of you first meet, his level is 0. During your time with her, it’s your job to get him up to level 1, then level 2, and finally up to level 10. When you turn the knob, she will eventually turn your knob. (literally and figuratively speaking).

The keyword here is consequently turn the volume knob. You have to establish a physical dynamic between the two of you early on and constantly push the envelope to the finish line.
“The longer you take to touch a woman, the weirder and more awkward it will get when you finally do. You shouldn’t wait more than 10 minutes to start any type of contact with her. I know it sounds creepy, but stay with me here. Whether this touch is just a high five, hip bumping hers, or touching her shoulder when you’re trying to make a point, you need to make a physical connection. Once this is established, continue to hold it and increase it between the two of you. Usually something will go in this order…

high five
hip bump
Touch his arm to emphasize a point.
arm over your shoulder
Joke hitting his ass
Hug
hand on his back
hold hands
smell her hair
Kiss (I’ll keep this article PG-13 and end it right here)

You’ll have a good sense if she’s comfortable with whatever you’re doing. If she gives you positive signals, she continues with what you are doing. If you feel that she is uncomfortable in any way, she will back off and try again later.

I can’t stress this point enough: use your fucking head with this stuff. If a girl says she doesn’t, she stops what you’re doing. He continues the fun vibe the two of you had, then try again later when he feels she’s more comfortable with it.

4. The thought will make her feel comfortable.

For a woman to be comfortable with sexuality, you must be comfortable with it. If you’re a little nervous about putting your arm around a woman, you’re going to scare her. She freaked out = another night of porn for you.

Think of this as if you were taming a wild horse. If you have ever seen wild horses, they are SUPER comfortable with a person touching and riding them if and only if the person is 100% comfortable doing it themselves. Every time a person who is a bit scared tries to ride it, the horse gets scared and won’t even let the person near it. Women are the same way. Whatever you feel inside is literally transferred to the woman.

For men who don’t have much experience with women, getting comfortable with these things can be a difficult thing to do. Sure it’s easy to tell yourself to be cool as ice when it comes time to step up, but it’s a whole lot different when you’re out in the real world. So what’s a guy to do then?

The only way to get comfortable with these things is through experience. It’s just like any other stressful thing you’ve done in the past. Take driving for example. As a cute teenager, he was probably a bit nervous when he first drove a car. After a few times it was easy and windy from there. The same goes for women. You’ll probably be an awkward mess when you practice these things until you finally get the hang of it. But sooner or later you will get VERY comfortable with these things and when you do, this “not having sex” problem of yours will never be a problem.

5. Although it will be persistent

In the third commandment, I said when a girl says no, stop what you’re doing. However, an important point to also understand is that generally speaking, when a woman says she doesn’t, she just means “not yet.”

When a woman stops your physical advances, it most likely just means she’s not 100% comfortable with it yet. By no means does that mean that she is ruling the whole idea. Most guys take this as a complete rejection. This is simply false. All she has hit is a red light on her way on her journey to the “happy land”. This does not mean turning around and driving home. It just means backing off a bit, being patient, and still having fun. The light will eventually turn green, so don’t panic.

There are a thousand and one different mental barriers that you will have to break down inside a woman’s mind in order for her to go all the way. In the woman’s mind, she is thinking…

My friends will think I’m the biggest slut…
This guy will never call me back if we do…
I don’t fully trust this guy…
I look like a cow in this dress I’m wearing…
I haven’t shaved in a long time, he’ll think I look like a monkey…
And it goes on and on and on…

If it stops you in your tracks, it’s usually due to a mental barrier preventing you from moving forward. It’s your job to break down those mental barriers so she’s ready to take things to the next level. This means letting the girl know that you are not the type of guy to judge people, especially women. It means being relaxed and at ease so that she feels comfortable. It means letting her know that she can leave at any time. It means understanding that she wants him as much as you do, if not more than you do. It means not looking like a used car salesman trying to close the deal. It means being a good guy, not a jerk.

Once he feels these things from you, every one of his walls will come crashing down and goodness will begin.