What is the number 2 reason you can’t find love?

The ability to resolve conflicts is a fundamental skill for any relationship. What’s interesting is that studies found that couples in healthy relationships were more effective communicators and better able to resolve conflicts in the workplace. That means conflict resolution skills are transferable. Therefore, if you develop these skills at work, you can transfer them to your love life, or relationships with family and friends. They will also come in handy at the local grocery store or online in the motor vehicle when easily angered people may be encountered.

The secret to conflict resolution is almost never about the other person. It is about the conflict you have with yourself. In other words, conflict resolution is not about having smooth lines to remember that stop conflict. While they can help in some cases, the essence of conflict resolution is the conflict you have within yourself when you find things you don’t like or things that bother you.

In most cases, what bothers you is not the event that is taking place in front of you. It is what reminds you. Think about the times you put someone you didn’t like. Then think about who they remind you of.

The same thing happens when you are in a relationship and your partner says something that reminds you of a situation that you promised you would never allow in your life again. For example, a wife sees that her husband is talking to another woman. In the past, the wife loved a man who was cheated on. In her mind, this is where the deception begins, with the man talking to another woman. She may be upset and upset with her husband and he has no idea what happened. His discomfort is the result of a conflict with what is happening in the present and what happened in the past.

The inability to resolve internal conflicts is one of the main culprits in failed relationships. In other cases, a woman may never have had a man cheat on her. Except she’s been told so many times that all men cheat on her that she believes her husband will cheat on her simply because he had a conversation with another woman. The fact is that she has already assumed that her husband will cheat on her before she meets him.

As long as the conflict is in the wife, she will have a hard time listening to her husband.

What I am saying is that whenever you have a conflict within yourself about what is happening in front of you, you are the source of the conflict, not the other person. So the inability to resolve conflicts within yourself is one of the secrets to effective conflict resolution.

If you effectively develop this skill, it will be much easier for you in your personal and professional life. People who lack the skill will create toxic cultures in organizations and constantly jump from one relationship to another with the same result.