5 signs a man is serious about a woman

There are exceptions, men who eventually give in when pressured incessantly, but these relationships don’t last. I have a friend who says “I won’t stop trying to catch it until it’s mine.” She will be relentless in her pursuits and will eventually end up having to be deceptive in some way. She doesn’t believe in the allure of mystery or playing hard to get it. In the end, she ends up disappointed. Eventually these men figure it out and walk out the door. Men are a sensible breed. ‘It is what it is’. Men are not as inclined to play hard and cause total confusion as women. If you’re not sure if your intentions are sincere, here are some signs that you’ve got caught.

1. Make a phone call.

Generally, when men start to think that things can get tense in the relationship and something doesn’t feel right … they will call and try to find out what it is. If you’ve dated him multiple times and have a feeling he might be the one, but he’s hard to reach. Then you may need to take a second look and move on before hanging up to dry. You are just not interested if you cannot communicate with him easily.

Most men know that by calling you they are showing interest. Unless he’s shy and scared when dealing with women, he will call you. When you’ve had a few dates and real connections and feelings have formed, men will make serious efforts to communicate with you. He calls you on the phone to say, “I was thinking about you, so I thought about calling you.” If the problem with the man is that he is shy or intimidated, you would not want to be the one who has to train him for the benefit of his future girlfriends … right?

2. Includes you in family activities.

Invites you to places with friends or family. If he includes you in activities with people close to him, he wants you to be part of his life. Why would you bring someone you don’t care about to meet your family? Then, you will have to suffer all the questions later when they ask for her. Knowing the family is something very important for a man and, in his opinion, a great step. So if you played scrabble with mom and dad on “Saturday Scrabble Day,” their weekly ritual, he thinks you’re definitely girlfriend material.

3. Suggests that you leave things in their place.

If he asks you to leave a change of clothes, toiletries, etc. instead, you are then acknowledging a commitment. Mind you, if he’s storing your things in a box in the basement at the end of a maze with a retinal scanner for clearance, then he’s hiding your relationship from someone. If your things are out of sight, or easily discovered by anyone who stops by, you are not taking your time together seriously. Or worse yet, he has someone else he cares about, and you are the one who helps him stray. If you can drop your bright pink toothbrush in the space next to hers, you’re in.

4. He lets you drive his car. Not because I’ve been drinking. / And without him as a passenger.

If you are driving a car that does not have a back seat because it was stolen and the rear window is covered with a saran wrap, this should not apply. You probably shouldn’t drive that car anyway. This is for the guy who loves his car, spends hours getting it started, and takes pride in taking care of it. If you give you the keys to your prized possession, and not because it is a matter of life and death (a designated driver), you have been deemed trustworthy. In his mind, he is showing the utmost confidence in yourself, and the keys to your apartment will soon arrive.

5. Says “I love you” with no hope of sex in sight.

If you are walking around an island in the local market and he stops you to say “I love you”, he really does. Men are overwhelmed with emotion in the sack, but this short duration and in the shots of passion, it is not wise to put all your faith in his words. Men are like a valve that will be released when the pressure has built up, this is the same for sex, but also for feelings and love. For men it is the action that counts, not the words. But if in the most random and unpredictable moment he expresses his feelings for you and has nothing to gain in the immediate future, he means it.

There are exceptions to this, but this applies if you are unsure at the beginning of a relationship. If you two have been together for a few months and in bed he says he loves you, then listen to him. Some men can take a whole year to pronounce the words. Always try to look at the context in which he expresses his undying love for you. Never say “I love you” first. Ever. Even if he loves you, he might freak out and feel like things are getting out of hand. Out of your control, that is.

If you two have been together for a long time, you should know what his love is for you. If you don’t, then you have bigger fish to fry. Women have their hearts broken every day by men they trust. Those who have thrown caution to the wind and ended up being blown away or thrown to the side, could have lessened the blow if they had saved their hearts a bit.

Men can be influenced by many things that can affect the way they view a budding relationship. Friends, family, past heartbreaks and fear of commitment. Let them express themselves naturally and without pressure. If he is not talking about his feelings all the time, that does not mean that he does not have real feelings for you.