I hate the body: who is that fat ugly woman in the mirror?

Are you a woman struggling with a fat and ugly self image? When the bath follows the round of the season, would you rather die than support your thighs? Locked up in a clinch with your lover, is “Lights off darling” your mantra? That can mean that you are really uncomfortable with your body. You’re not alone. Many women struggle with a negative body image. Because there are so many girls unhappy with their bodies, the diet industry is getting fatter and fatter, making more than $ 60 billion / year. That’s because diet organizations make money when they manage to make you feel fat and insecure. When you look in the mirror, do you love what you see? Research shows that nearly 4 in 5 American women say they hate their bodies. That’s 80% of the female population in the entire United States. You are one of them?

Why can’t he see himself as he really is

The truth is that we do not really see ourselves or our body as we are, or even as others see us, because we are only seeing our interpretation of reality, not what is really there, because we are unable to observe ourselves objectively. Our perceptions are colored or filtered by our experiences. If your family was a blue family, you were given “blue glasses.” If your family and your experiences are of being part of a pink group, you have been looking at the world through “rose-colored glasses.” We are all different depending on how our experiences have shaped us. Our brains always make sense of everything we experience. The important thing to keep in mind is that it does not matter through what color of glasses you have been experiencing the world; it’s just a starting point. You don’t have to get stuck with those misperceptions. It may be time for an update.

Self-image: the mirror in your mind

Inside each one of us we have the equivalent of a huge computer that stores all the experiences of our life, in your memory. This is known as the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is not a real part of your brain, but is said to be present in every cell of your body. This database in you contains a collection of beliefs and experiences that is known as your own image. Determine how you feel about who you are, your body, your life, and everything you think is possible. To be happy, really happy, and live a fulfilling life, you must have a proper and realistic image of yourself that you can live in harmony with. You have to be good enough for yourself. This will give you a strong sense of self-worth. This is an image of yourself that you can trust and believe in, like and admire, respect and honor.

When your image of yourself is intact, you feel good and you are a confident person. When something happens that shakes you or threatens you, you become insecure. If you have been abused or hurt, criticized or teased, you may still feel the impact of that emotional pain, depending on the meaning you gave to the experience, you may tend to feel ashamed and find yourself hiding your light. That’s only because it feels like the safest option for you. If you are caught in a body trap, hating a part of yourself, it is because you think you are this negative, shameful, disgusting, unworthy, fat, ugly, stupid or incapable image that you can have of yourself. Is not true!

And unless you can really see yourself differently, no diet, no exercise, no amount of compliments, or anything else will make you believe something that a part of you is unwilling to believe. To change these negative core beliefs that limit you, and feel different about your body, without doing anything radical like cosmetic surgery or diet, you have to change the image you have within yourself. The good news is that this self-image or subconscious mind is completely impersonal and impartial to the information it contains. So if you don’t like the way you look or feel about your body, all you have to do is steer your subconscious mind or your own image in a new direction.

Dr. Maxwell Maltz, Plastic Surgeon Performs No-Scalpel Facelift

This incredible discovery of the power of the self image and the extent of its influence is attributed to the work of one man, Dr. Maxwell Maltz. Maltz was a plastic surgeon in the 1960s. At age 61, he wrote his first book called Psycho Cybernetics, which became a self-improvement phenomenon, selling more than 30 million copies to date. Today, you can’t choose a self-improvement book or program that isn’t based on your groundbreaking discoveries teaching how to change a negative self-image. Maltz said, “Your self-image changes, for better or for worse, not just by intellect, not by intellectual knowledge, but by” experimenting. “That means for you to think and feel differently about your body must begin to be able to “see” itself doing things differently.

Basically, your ideas are focused on visualizing your goals. It is truly the secret behind “The Secret”. Here is the origin of how all this happened. Before writing Psycho Cybernetics, Dr. Maltz noted that many times after a cosmetic procedure was successfully performed, his patients continued to obsess over their blemishes that they had agreed to be well corrected.

After examining many cases, he noticed a parallel. Each of those patients who felt that cosmetic surgery did not help them had very low self-esteem. They felt that deep down nothing could be done to correct their flaws. One day Dr. Maltz brainstormed and realized that what they needed was a perception correction. He made a deal with one of his clients named Jack, who was obsessed with his crooked nose. Dr. Maltz said that he would not consent to operating on Jack again until Jack took an intermediate step. Dr. Maltz offered to teach Jack how to recreate his distorted image of himself, using a visualization process. He explained that it would take 21 consecutive days to complete the process. After that time, if Jack was still dissatisfied, Dr. Maltz would do the surgery.

At the end of 21 days, Jack was so happy with his nose that he didn’t even want the surgery.

My experience of going from hating the body to loving the body: so many sighs on my big fat thighs

In my experience, before making the decision to stop dieting, I spent years obsessing over my thigh size. No matter what size I was, I swore I must have the biggest thighs in the world. No amount of weight loss or exercise was enough to alter my distorted perception of my body. When I finally decided to stop dieting, because I had an image of myself as a fat pig with no self-control in eating, I lost all control, it seemed like I could never stop eating, and put on 35 pounds.

One day standing up, looking at myself in the mirror, I had an epiphany and realized that I had to accept myself and my thighs as they were, or go on living a crazy life hoping and praying that diet and exercise would change them. . I knew I could never live under the tyranny of diet again, so the alternative was to learn to love myself now. Because I made that decision, I now know for sure that the problem was never my thigh size. It was all in my head. It was low self-esteem and a bad image of myself that I carried with me on a daily basis. It was those angry thoughts, those nasty, critical words that had been yelled at me as a child. Because those memories were so emotionally charged, every time I looked in the mirror or recalled something related to how I felt about my body, those tapes played in my mind and I became my worst critic. That angry voice that had become mine was the reason I couldn’t stop eating. I knew that I had to change the way he spoke to me and find some compassion and sweetness within me. It started by making the decision to stop dieting and promising that she would learn to trust me again.

Today, now that I no longer worry about dieting or watching my weight, and I know that I can trust myself with each and every food, I have more respect and appreciation for myself as I am: Andrea, the person . Food is no longer my master and I am no longer its slave. As I continue to move forward to befriend and love my body at any size, I find that it keeps shrinking and getting smaller. I am not trying to lose weight. I just am, and I’m doing it in the least invasive way possible.

I love knowing that I can have cookies, chips, ice cream, and pasta in my house and be surrounded by tons of goodies and not feel the need to eat them when I’m not hungry. I love having the feeling of power that comes with being able to put a bag clip on my fries and put them back in the cabinet, knowing that I don’t want to keep eating them anymore and that they will be there for later. And on the increasingly rare occasions when I eat a little more or soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo Forgiveness is not necessary.

When I overeat, it is simply an indication to me that something deeper hurts. And by taking care of that, finding out what it is, handling those wounds, and treating myself in the most loving and gentle way possible, the desire to abuse myself with food disappears. Let me tell you everything I have learned along the way. I am full of information that I want to teach you. Let me help you get started on your path to adopting a new non-dietary thinking so that you too can start loving your thighs or any other part of you at any size.

Here are some tips to help you makeover a fat and ugly self image:

1. Watch TV affirming the body TV shows like Lifetime’s How to Look Good Naked instantly lift the mood. Hosted by Carson Kressley, former co-host of Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, Carson focuses on helping women go from hating their bodies to loving them. I like to think of it as a 60 minute self makeover. With Carson at the helm, you will cry with laughter as you learn to view your body in a more loving and compassionate light.

two. Look for role models Find a woman who has the same body type as you and is already doing what you want to do. If you hate your thighs and want to feel comfortable going to the beach and wearing a bathing suit, find a woman who is already doing it and ask her permission to ask her a few questions. Tell her that you don’t feel comfortable and that you really want to understand how to think more like her so that you like your body more. Ask her what makes her feel comfortable. What do you think about when you are at the beach? What motivates you and many other questions you may have.

3. Get support Spend time with other women who are also committed to appreciating their bodies.

Four. Study role models Read books about women shaped like you who like their bodies. This is a less assertive but nonetheless effective way of accomplishing the same goal as talking to another woman and asking her questions.

5. Stop observing the scale Don’t let anything or anyone tell you how you have the right to feel. Step away from the scale. Save it or throw it away. Stop judging yourself on that nasty piece of sheet metal.

Last, and most importantly, you are not your thighs, buttocks, frizzy hair or saggy breasts or any other part of your body. You are much more than what you see. Start imagining seeing yourself as you want to be, when you are the size you choose, and instead of concentrating on dieting, eating less, or doing anything to make that happen, just do the things you would do if you were that girl. . You go Juicy Woman! I believe in you! You do?