Military marriage after infidelity and its family effects

There are more than 56% of couples trying to get over infidelity. How easy is it? Is not! Especially in a military lifestyle when there is a code of conduct that soldiers just don’t follow. Yet in the US we look up to these people and they are doing it to each other. Respect and loyalty seem to go out the door once you close the doors and no one knows what is happening behind the closed doors. It takes two very dedicated people to stand your ground instead of just finding the quick way out. Divorces are valued at 2.4 million a year and end at a 50% rate. Tragically we take the easy route to blame the marriage and / or the partner. What we don’t see are our own selfish ways that affect the people we love. The ugly truth is that one must live by remaining with a deep root of a hole in his spiritual character of immorality from birth. Your own insecurities are what drive you out of the marriage, not your partner and only until you can cope. You will continue to drip as big as an ocean and drown in your own pain, because you will never know who you are and who you love. Until you can work on your flaws and the love you carry within, marriage is an unfortunate dissolution from the start.

If you are a man or woman who is always looking for the thrill of not committing and enjoys jumping on someone else’s horse and carriage and then turning it in at the end of the day, that trip is going to cost you. You are in your own denial of love abuse within your own deepest hole in your character. You are so afraid of love that you run away from it or run into the arms of a sadder married person when you are a teenager starting life this way. Your life will only be hectic and you will reap what you sew, unless you make quick changes to worry about who you are and what you deserve and others you hurt. The wife will always be the wife, you will always be the (lover = miss), you will not miss the stress, you will always be the stranger in the stress. Value who you are, because you will be nothing more than another one night stand to add to your collection.

The military take care of their families, a lot! I’m not really sure about this honor. However, if you are going through a dishonorable affair or are the victim or intruder, there is a lot to think about before such acts. Many things will change your life forever: The only nightstand may not be worth it! Trust me! If both are in the military, the salary is checkmate! I don’t mean that you are controlling your adventure. You will pay a heavy price for your dishonesty, disloyalty and / or intrusion. It can cost you up to a year in jail, disgraced dismissal and all the money and a bad relationship with your future career. You made your bed and you will lie in it like you did! In turn, don’t: blame your spouse for handing you the new consequences when you signed your life with the military and when you signed your vows. If you weren’t going to honor any of that, then you shouldn’t take on more than you can handle.

Adultery affects everyone in tragic ways, but even more so, when one spouse takes care of things at home with the children and the other spouse takes care of someone else instead of their family. If you love yourself, you will do whatever it takes to find everything in your marriage. There will be no place for a leaky ocean because you have healed that hole – that only you can heal. So, lest you end up being that 50% in divorce: don’t get married until you really love yourself first!

This is the biggest problem in weddings today and yesterday!