Your wife wants her freedom! What she must do to save her marriage

Your wife wants her freedom. That really doesn’t match up to you two living a long and happy life together, right? What are you supposed to do when the woman you love and promised to spend your life with tells you that she wants her freedom? It’s a shock, but it’s not the end of their marriage as they know it. You can take some steps not to change things so that the last thing she wants is to walk away from you. As challenging as it is not to overreact when her wife makes an announcement like this, she should try to moderate her response and do whatever it takes to save her marriage.

If your wife wants her freedom, you need to address that issue head on. Pretending she’s upset about an argument you had or that she’s going through a mid-life crisis won’t help you one bit. This is not a case where you want to bury your head in the sand. Your wife’s desire for some space or distance is a clear sign that her needs are no longer being met in the marriage. Since you are his partner, it is up to you to fix this by any means possible. That means taking control of the situation and finding a solution that works for both of you.

Ask him where his need for time apart comes from. Listen to her explain what she is feeling and allow her to do so without fear of interrupting and defensiveness. This is going to be one of the most important conversations the two of you have, so it is essential that you are calm and willing to listen to what she has to say. Some women feel that they need their freedom because they are no longer appreciated within their marriage. Other women feel that they have missed out on life by marrying too young or because they have dedicated too much of their lives to their family. While you may see these as selfish reasons for her wife to want to take a break from her marriage, they are important reasons for her.

Suggest that they stay together and work together on the issues that concern them. Make it clear to your wife that she is the most important person in your world and that you will do whatever it takes to make her happy and fulfilled. If she still insists on wanting her freedom, work together to come to an agreement about her having more time to herself. Maybe a couple of nights out during the week with her friends will help her feel more balanced, or maybe she wants to get back into her career full time. If she is open to her suggestions about how she can find more fulfillment, she will be showing him that she can have her freedom and her marriage as well.